Mrs. Oklahoma Evening Wear Competition

Here are some photos by Mrs. Oklahoma pageant photographer, Larry Wright, taken during the evening wear competition. I am wearing a gown that makes me feel like a queen, designed by Oklahoma's own Johnathan Kayne Gillespie of Project Runway fame. Johnathan has said that it's easy to make women look beautiful; it's his goal to make women feel beautiful. He definitely succeeded. With his gorgeous gown and his stunning choice for my earrings, and Ilquia Anderson's beautiful hair & make-up, I felt like I could be the next Mrs. America. Thank you so much for making me feel beautiful -- and thank you, Larry, for capturing that on film!

"Body By Aspen"

I wanted to thank Aspen Athletic Club for their generous fitness sponsorship for my year of service as Mrs. Tulsa. I can honestly say that I was in the best shape of my adult life at the Mrs. Oklahoma pageant, and I hope to be even more healthy and fit a year from now, when I compete for the state title again in 2011. Here are some photos by the official Mrs. Oklahoma pageant photographer, Larry Wright, that show just what a "body by Aspen" looks like!

Thank you so much to Rob, Jerry, Joe, and the entire Aspen team for helping me to uncover long-hidden muscle definition and increase my stamina and energy more than I ever thought possible. Thank you again for helping me get into the best shape of my life!

Aspen Athletic Club at 61st & Memorial

New Autograph Cards & 2011 Sponsorship Opportunities

Front side of the autograph card

Back side of the autograph card
All Images by Larry Wright, www.PhotoByLarry.com

I recently received my Mrs. Oklahoma Pageant photos from pageant photographer, Larry Wright, and used them to design my new autograph cards! I will be signing these at upcoming events on May 22, June 5, June 15, August 7, and September 11, or until they run out!

Let me know if you or anyone you know would like to support me in my goal of serving the state and then the country as Mrs. Oklahoma and Mrs. America! Sponsors receive advertising on my website, blog, and social networking sites; advertisement on my autograph cards and friends & family newsletter; and any other benefits that we agree to, such as an autograph signing at your place of business or my services as a spokesmodel in commercials for your company. Let me know as soon as possible if you would like to be listed on my next set of autograph cards.

I am currently seeking monetary sponsors to help with my 2011 entry fee and pageant expenses, as well as those sponsors who would like to donate use of products and services, in exchange for advertising. I do everything I can to make the relationship mutually beneficial. It is very important to me that both parties feel comfortable with our agreement; you can change the sponsorship agreement at any time if you find it isn't working out for you.

Email me at SashaMTownsend@gmail.com if you or someone you know would like to support my dream and efforts to support couples, children, and families throughout the country as Mrs. America 2011.

May 2010 Newsletter

Hello, everyone! Last month I began publishing a newsletter for family & friends. I will continue to update my blog with posts about supporting families and addressing divorce, but I will leave most of the personal messages for the friends & family newsletter. Send me an email at SashaMTownsend@gmail.com if you'd like to be a part of the mailing list. Many blessings!

Click Here To View The Newsletter

Update

Dear family and friends,
The weeks since the Mrs. Oklahoma pageant have flown by!

We have lots of new developments with Blended Love that have been keeping Monica and me very busy and focused (These developments will be announced more formally very soon!). I finished up a semester of teaching trigonometry at TCC. I have continued my work with the Oklahoma Marriage Initiative. While I'm still busy (and I love it), I have enjoyed a much needed break! I also took a part-time job for a few hours per week at the Emerald Emporium, which is a deli located in the Park Centre building downtown; judged the Oklahoma Fabulous Faces pageant (the little ones were sooo precious!); spoke for a few minutes at the Tulsa Forever. For Real. one day event for engaged couples (thanks, Amanda, for giving me a few minutes to share my passion, mission, vision, and resources), and I'm getting ready for a few more events and speaking engagements in the coming months...as Mrs. Tulsa, the executive director of Blended Love, ambassador for OMI, and as a friend and family member. I'll be signing autographs next weekend at a golf tournament benefit for the Ronald McDonald house! Please visit the link to register!

Bobby and I are doing well! Bobby is working very hard as always, and we're both working towards our goals and dreams at a slow-but-steady pace. I've probably had one too many mint oreos since the Mrs. Oklahoma pageant, but I have kept up my pageant workouts, so I'm confident that my commitment to health and wellness is here to stay. I returned to Toastmasters two weeks ago and won the Best Speaker award last Monday for a speech titled, Nurturing Commitment.

My sister Jade was in town for the pageant. We had a great time! It had been years since we had seen each other, although we typically talk on the phone a few times per week. I miss her so much. I am so proud of her for the woman she has become and the mother she is to my nephew Michael and my niece Ella.

I also visited my dad last Friday and we had a very nice visit.

Saturday, Bobby made an Elmo cake for our nephew Tysen's 2nd birthday party! We had so much fun. Carla and Tom did a lovely job planning the party for their son. Tysen is just such a good boy. He blew on the cake when the candle was lit. He said, "Elmo, hot!" Then Ty was so concerned when we cut the cake into pieces. I had been reading about child development for my work on the training manuals for Blended Love. I remembered reading that children in Tysen's age group can't tell the difference between a shoe and a picture of a shoe. He really thought we were cutting up Elmo! Then we brought him his stuffed animal and he felt a little better, although he did look back and forth from the cake to the Elmo doll a few times. It's so neat to watch him learning. His young mind is a sponge. And he's such a compassionate little boy, so good-natured. I can't wait until Bobby and I feel ready to have a baby of our own. Until then, I'll just have to nurture our doggies! It will all happen in God's time.

Yesterday, I attended Asbury United Methodist Church, and heard a beautiful sermon on motherhood. Then, when Bobby finished up at work, we took our mother-in-law Ada out to Olive Garden. We had a really nice time, great conversation. I called my mom and sent texts to all of my mommy-friends. :) I got a few texts myself, because of the doggies, which I thought was sweet. Overall, we had a very nice day, even though I missed my mom.

I'm continuing to serve as Mrs. Tulsa until the end of the summer. I'm not 100% sure about competing again in 2011, but I do hope to compete. I have to discuss it with Bobby and pray about it, but I do hope to compete again because the Mrs. America title would be the perfect platform to share the Oklahoma Marriage Initiative model with state legislatures around the country. I believe that marriage and relationship education should be easily accessible and widely available. I also believe that every child should have access to guidance and support after family change, and parents and teachers are seeking information to help their children. They are seeking information that just isn't there right now. The Oklahoma Marriage Initiative and Blended Love are working to change that. We believe in education. We believe that knowledge is power, and that individuals, armed with compassionate hearts and good information, will make choices and small changes to improve their lives, shaping their families and relationships.

As Americans, we say that family matters, that family comes first, and the majority of us believe it. I think we ought to show it. We ought to invest in this institution of family. This is something that transcends political and religious affiliations, and the other cultures and subcultures that make our country diverse, rich, and interesting. This is something we all have in common. We all know that family matters. I want to strengthen families... and I want to enlist the help of everyone who agrees with me. Our differences are our strengths. :) We cannot do it alone, but together, and with God's help and blessing, we can change our little corner of the world, one couple and one family at a time.

I'll post pictures soon!
God bless you and your family!
Sasha

The Mrs. Oklahoma Pageant

Hi everyone! I had an amazing time at the Mrs. Oklahoma Pageant this weekend. Alyssa Baldwin Siler is the new Mrs. Oklahoma! I couldn't be happier for her! The competition was incredible. It was such a competitive year. Tracy and her team produced an excellent pageant. It was clear from the moment I decided to compete that Tracy loves her contestants and wants each of them to do their personal best as public servants and contestants at the state and national and possible international pageants of Mrs. Oklahoma, Mrs. America, and Mrs. World.

Mrs. Oklahoma 2009 Heather Rouba has left an incedible legacy. She left a legacy of service to others, through her platform of strengthening marriage and family, through her service and message to the women of Oklahoma, and her dedication to the contestants and leadership of the Mrs. Oklahoma America organization. She is also a gorgeous, fashion-forward, health-conscious, creative, talented, determined, community-minded, extremely efficient woman of faith. She is always learning and she is very observant. She made over 250 appearances I believe (I'm quoting this from another person. I may be wrong...). In addition to making appearances and serving others through OMI, Smart Singles, and the women's ministry at her church, she assisted Tracy with the recruitment of a group of beautiful, fit, articulate, service-minded women I competed with this weekend and connected many sponsors with the Mrs. Oklahoma program. She set a very high standard for what it means to be Mrs. Oklahoma. From my interactions with Alyssa this weekend, I know that with Alyssa as our own Mrs. Oklahoma, the pageant, the caliber of contestants, the involvement with OK Mozart and our personal platforms, will only improve! The Mrs. Oklahoma program will continue to grow and the organization and its contributions will be better a year from now than they are today.

As for the competition itself, as I said, these women were incredible! Among the group of 19, there were easily more than ten of us who could have made the top ten. This was a group of go-getters as I have never seen before at a pageant, (and many of you know that I have competed in many pageants over the years). These women had great abs(!!!), and incredible service records, and impressive resumes. They were also genuine and kind. They thought of every detail. They have such good hearts! I believe that every contestant sold at least one ad page, which is a testimony to the fact that these women are as proactive and dedicated as they are beautiful. The women I competed with this weekend were all very different, but each person had something wonderful to offer. I can honestly say I made many, many great new friends. These are women that I admire and respect. Although I'm not Mrs. Oklahoma 2010, I feel that I have won. :)

I was honored to make the top ten. I also earned the Ambassador Award, which is given to the contestant who makes the most appearances with her local title, and the Contestant's Choice award. Contestant's Choice was a huge honor, because the contestants were asked to select the person they hoped would win (if it couldn't be them). I devoted the last eight months to serving Tulsa. I made many appearances, with the majority related to my platform of supporting families & addressing divorce. My service efforts, new relationships, my job with Blended Love, the commitment I made to health & fitness and developing my speaking skills...these things have forever changed me. In the past eight months, I have seen that anyone, at any time, in any financial situation, can make their dreams come true by striving to achieve a goal and contributing their talents and strengths and passion to their local community.

I believe God has many purposes for each of us, and addressing the divorce issue is one of mine. Everything I learned in the pursuit of becoming Mrs. Oklahoma has helped me to step out of my comfort zone and develop myself, so that I can give of myself. Self-centered personal development isn't what Mrs. Oklahoma is about. It is personal development for a purpose; its personal development so that you can serve and share God's love with others.

I want to thank Tracy Crist for giving all of us this opportunity to serve and to grow. Alyssa, Bobby and I were both impressed with the way you handled the "number" situation in the lobby of the Sleep Inn! You are smart and resourceful. You took initiative. You're a problem solver. CF is such an important cause. I also loved talking to you in the wings in our little "clump". I can't wait to follow your year! You are already an outstanding Mrs. Oklahoma. Heather, thank you for your leadership, friendship and example. You have shown us what it means to be Mrs. Oklahoma! I love you! To my fellow contestants, I admire and respect every one of you, and I mean Every One. Please stay in touch!

I want to thank my handsome husband Bobby for supporting me in my desire to serve our state as Mrs. Oklahoma. I am so blessed to be yours. :) You make me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. It is your belief in me that helped me to believe in myself. I love you! Jade, thank you for traveling all the way from Florida to experience this with me! I love you! Ilquia, I love you, girl! I'm so glad to know you and to be your friend. You made me look so beautiful! Thank you!

Today, I find myself remembering that all things happen for a reason. Competition in pageantry is about the journey, not the destination. Being a titleholder is never about you; it's always about serving others. Every opportunity you embrace to do good brings you one step closer to being the person God created you to be. If you make a commitment, follow through. If you do your best, you've won. Today, while I know that I have much more to learn, I know I'm a child of God; I'm grateful for this experience; I feel like a winner. :)

I would like to thank my sponsors. My pageant participation wouldn't be possible without the generosity and kindness of these wonderful business people. Please patronize these business owners and find them on facebook!

*Ilquia Gonzalez Anderson, who provided my hair & make-up (I love you, Ilquia!!)

*Dr. Lauren Whenry, my dentist, who provided free in-office teeth whitening and an at-home touch up kit (My smile as never been so white! Thank you!);

*Oxygen, Inc., who provided a beautiful appearance wardrobe (You have made me look and feel beautiful for months! Thank you so much!);

*Amanda Carter, Kendy Cox, and the Oklahoma Marriage Initiative, who sponsored my platform ad page for the program book. Thank you for giving me opportunities to support our mutual cause! I'm so grateful to be a part of the work of OMI.

*New Day Media & Gary Murphy, who provided my iFace video and public service announcements for OMI & Forever. For Real. Thank you for believing in me! You are awesome!

*Aspen Athletic Club, who provided me with a free membership through June 30 (I've never been so fit! Thanks!)

*Wendy Mutz, who provided my Mrs. Tulsa promotional photos (I adore my photos, Wendy! Thank you! Also, thank you for the Just Chill drinks for all of the contestants!);

*My friends and family, who donated money so that I could pay for my alterations. Thank you so much! I felt like a queen in my gown. Your support means more than you know.

*Monica Epperson & Blended Love, for giving me the opportunity to live my dream.